“I definitely go to church more often, like every Sunday. Also, once a month we have a family outing to the movies or out to dinner.” — Melissa Balas Howell

Since 9/11, how has your daily routine changed?

“Once a month since the attacks, my fraternity brothers and I go to the city to help with the relief efforts. We are with the black bucket brigade, which is responsible for recovering the body parts.” — Michael King Tinton Falls My husband and I do more things together. We moved here from the city last year. The lifestyle is so different. Now we shop together, and my husband barbecues for me, which he’d never done before. I was in Macy’s when I found out what happened. Everyone was crying. Even though I live in Jersey, I will always be a New Yorker.” — Catherine DelPrete Jackson “I work in Newark, and my office window faced the twin towers, so I got to watch it all happen. Right after the attacks we were constantly evacuated because of bomb threats. Now we have new ID cards and a metal detector in order to get into my building. I used to be a workaholic. Now I work less and have more family time.” — Diane Kerlet Jackson “I feel more anxiety over not being with my children all of the time. … They keep asking me questions about things I don’t even want to talk with them about, but I have to. We were always a religious family who spent quality time together, so we still rely on that.” — Robin Alfonso Manalapan “I miss the World Trade Center, particularly since I am an architect. I know several people who, thank God, got out that day. Now when I’m in New York City, I’m much more cautious. I say a prayer every time I go into New York, especially [in] the tunnel.” — Norman Becker Manalapan “When it all happened, I was in school in Vermont. I’m more cautious while in New York. I look after my friends more — I’m protective of them. At school we have a monument dedicated to 9/11, and we’re writing stories and poems, sharing our feelings.” — Michael Peterson Manalapan “I’m a Lakewood police officer, so I’m definitely more cautious at work. I look out for suspicious packages. I also carry my weapon while I’m off duty for protection. As for my family, I read the paper more to pass the information along to my family.” — Dan Tworkoski Lakewood